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Reflections from 36,000 feet
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A quiet moment, 36,000 ft up

April 15, 2025 What holds it all together Dear friend, Right now I’m 36,000 ft in the air on my first child-free transatlantic flight in eight years. That sentence alone feels surreal. It’s been so long since I’ve had this much physical space and mental quiet—space to think, feel, remember. I queued up an old Sex and the City episode during my meal—Carrie turns 35 and gets stood up at her own birthday dinner. She’s reflecting on soulmates, singledom, and that awful look of pity shot her way...

basic life saving

April 1, 2025 The Lifesaving Skills Every Person Should Know Two weeks ago, my cousin’s 2-year-old son choked on a mushroom. The firemen took 6 minutes to arrive, the ambulance 20, and his heart didn't start beating again for 45 minutes. His mother, a midwife, had recently taken a refresher CPR course and performed it relentlessly until help arrived. He was placed in a medically induced coma and spent a week in the hospital, but because CPR kept blood flowing to his brain and body while he...

Bird Poop on Head

March 1, 2025 From Bird Poop to Balance It was my first day back at work after baby number two. 4 years ago today. March 1st, 2021. Yes, that’s bird poop on my head. Good luck, right? That’s what I told my three-year-old as we laughed about it. I washed my hair off at daycare and showed up to work feeling … strange. I had used every bit of unpaid leave and vacation to extend my maternity leave, but the time had come. I was "ready." Ready to leave the house, dress up again, talk to adults, and...

Needed Supplements

February 15th, 2025 Prenatal & Postpartum Nutrition—Simplified by a Midwife Did you know that 97% of women take a prenatal vitamin, yet 95% are still missing key nutrients? That math doesn’t add up. When I was pregnant, I lived in Switzerland, where there were mayyybe 3 prenatal vitamins to choose from at the pharmacy. Even that felt overwhelming. I did my research, made a list of must-have ingredients and doses, and still ended up just taking the pharmacist’s recommendation. And after all...

goals vs task

Jan 30, 2025 Goals vs. Tasks: I Finally Get It! I started working with a business coach this month. During our first meeting, he explained the difference between a goal and a task. “Ohhh … yesss … duhhh,” I said to myself. A goal is something you want to achieve but that is also impacted by external factors. “I want to sleep better” or “I want my children to tell me the truth.” A task is something entirely in your control that will help you reach your goal. “No screens 1hr before bed” or...

Dec 15th, 2024 Making the most of anxious suspense Daily check that his present is still there Expectations, anticipation, anxiety, suspense. We can probably all agree that Waiting is not Easy (as per the title of one of my favorite children's books). Yet, there is a lot we can teach ourselves and our children about this season of waiting. There are many similar quotes and none that I find with a consistent author to credit, but the idea is, “Happiness is the path, not the destination.” Duh,...

November 30th, 2024 Parenting elsewhere with unsolicited advice With Thanksgiving officially in the rear-view mirror, it is full on Christmas. The MOST time of the year. Maybe you will be travelling to see family, or hosting extended family in your home, maybe you will just have more time at home with your children. Regardless of what your holiday season entails it will be a change from the daily routine, and as we all know that can lead to dysregulated little (and big) people. → If you don’t...

15th Nov 2024 Mothers as martyrs Last night was the first meeting of my newly formed wine (& book) club. As the instigator and host, I chose a Malepère from Domaine Le Fort to go along with Glennon Doyle’s Untamed. I first read Untamed in a basement supply room while pumping. It was March 2020 and I was back at work 6 months after the birth of my second child. Untamed is the first book I have ever re-read. And in four years that have passed, I have become more of a mother (more time in this...

Third child on the way

October 30th, 2024 3 ways to protect your marriage "Will my marriage survive another kid?" A friend asked me this yesterday. My husband and I asked ourselves this years ago. Has this perhaps been the reason that you decided not to go for #3? What is it about having a child that disrupts marital bliss? Sleepless nights, constant needed-ness, lack of time, hormones, inability to be alone - not to mention pee alone, physical pain, increased mental load, identity change, stress of doing it right,...

Matrescence, the becoming of a mother

October 15th, 2024 Matrescence 2018, the day after my first son was born In the same way that our body, hormones, values and relationships change in adolescence as we become adults, we again transform in matrescence, when we become a mother. Matrescence, noun. the physical, emotional, hormonal and social transition of becoming a mother a developmental passage where a woman transitions, through pre-conception, pregnancy and birth, surrogacy, or adoption to the postnatal period and beyond;...